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From Holiday Chaos to Calm: Re-establishing Routines That Actually Work

by Dr. Jazmine
Jan 06, 2025
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The transition back to "regular life" after the magic and excitement of the holidays is HARD.

During the holidays, our kids stay up late, sleep in, and enjoy unstructured days filled with new toys, family visits, and special treats.

Now we're asking them to snap back into early wake-ups, scheduled mealtimes, and structured days.

No wonder they're struggling!

Throughout December, we explored strategies for navigating holiday challenges - from managing different parenting styles with relatives to handling sibling conflicts over new toys.

Now it's time to tackle one of the biggest post-holiday hurdles: Re-establishing routines that help our mornings and evenings flow smoothly.

In this issue, you'll learn:

  • Why transitions are especially challenging after holiday breaks (and why your child's resistance is actually developmentally appropriate!)
  • A step-by-step approach to rebuild routines that stick
  • Scripts for staying calm when your child pushes back
  • Common pitfalls to avoid as you get back on track

 

Part 1: Understanding Why Routines Crash After the Holidays

Picture this: For the past few weeks, your child has been living in what I call "holiday mode." Their normal schedule flew out the window.

They've been:

  • Staying up late for special events and family gatherings
  • Sleeping in with no set wake time
  • Eating at irregular times
  • Getting loads of one-on-one attention from visiting relatives
  • Experiencing the excitement and stimulation of new toys, treats, and activities

Now we're asking them to suddenly shift back to "regular mode" - early bedtimes, structured mornings, and less flexibility. This is a massive adjustment for their minds and bodies.

Here's what is easy to miss as parents:

So how do we help our children (and ourselves) make this transition as smooth as possible?

The strategies I'm about to share will not only reduce daily battles and meltdowns but also help your child feel more secure, confident, and emotionally regulated during this adjustment period.

Let's dive into exactly what you need to know to transform chaos back into calm.

Part 2: Your Step-by-Step Guide to Reset Routines

Getting back into routines isn't just about making your life easier as a parent (though that's a wonderful benefit!).

The step-by-step guide below will help you rebuild routines in a way that's gentle yet effective.

By following these evidence-based strategies, you'll reduce morning battles, bedtime struggles, and daily power struggles while helping your child feel confident and capable during this transition.

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